respect

this is a post that i had on facebook about 8 months ago: it speaks volumes...

This is just a little something I wrote a few days ago. I wasn't going to post it because I may "step on some toes". But a couple of my good friends told me to go ahead and do it. So here it goes: Respect--such a simple plain word but yet has such a a powerful meaning. It may not mean a lot to some, but it is all I long for. When you do a job well done, do you not want someone to give you that pat on the back? If you are in a leadership role, do you not expect RESPECT from your colleagues? Is it just me, or does this not happen as much as it should? Yeah, I've heard everything from: that's what you get paid for, it's your responsibility, why do you want to lead?, and why do more than what is expected?...the list could go on and on. Well here is your answers: Yes, I get paid to do my job but so do you? Yes, it is my responsibility to make sure things are done and are getting done the way I was TAUGHT to do. I want to lead because it is something that I feel I was given the gift to do. And up until now, I truly believed it but it is amazing what a few people can do to your self-esteem and self-worth. And yes, I do more than what is expected of me because that is who I am. I give 110% and I expect a little bit of recognition and respect for it. I've been told by even family members that I think I'm better than them. And you know what? If it means that I take pride in myself and I what I do then so be it. I am better. Everyone should have pride in what they do and what they accomplish. 20 years ago, this kind of thing wasn't an issue. I never heard my parents speak of their colleagues undermining someone in an authority position. There is a reason why positions such as these are given. Usually because those that are higher on the "ladder" do not have a clue about the day to day operations. They hand out positions to keep control of area they do not cover or know. But what is the point in taking the time, money, and resources into training a person and then not backing them up? If I was doing something wrong, first and foremost, I would expect to be told. Then I can see having their help to fix a problem. But why fix something that isn't broke? And why beat your leader down so much that they feel powerless and worthless? Haven't we already showed others that they don't have to listen or do whatever task just because they don't "like" to. Or that they have to RESPECT their leader. Funny, there is that word again. A military friend once told me- "it doesn't matter whether you liked the person or not;or wanted to do what they told you to do--you did it because you listened to and RESPECTED their authority". Wouldn't the world be a perfect place if this would happen now? But no, there always has to be atleast one person to rock the boat. In the past, I can think of a few who did the same thing but funny thing is--is that they are not here yet I still am. Go figure! Is my opinion not worth anything? I believe with almost 10 years of experience interviewing, hiring, training, and firing people my opinion would be worth a little more than what it is. But I guess not. I'm passed the anger and frustration but now am stuck at the loss of self-worth. When you are doing your "thing" from day to day and all is going well, then all of a sudden you get hit up-side the head by a MAC truck, you tend to second guess yourself. I have thought, prayed, cried, and yelled about what to do. And the only thing I can come up with is--wherever I am, I am going to demand RESPECT. Such a simple thing to give yet so hard to get... But by the grace of God, I am what I am. Ask, and it shall be given you; seek, and ye shall find; knock, and it shall be opened unto you: Matthew 7:7 He maketh the storm a calm, so that the waves there of are still. Psalms 107:29 Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies. Proverbs 31:10